Is staying silent better than staying on the wrong side?

Ever since I grew up, I always looked around me seeing people taking sides of the people who they are close to or who they love despite them standing on the wrong side. I always saw, that you need to be by the side of the person you have close connection to, even when he or she is lying or whatever.

The biggest example that we get to witness is in the middle school or primary school. Almost all of us have witnessed the time when we had to take the side of our best friend whenever they got into a fight with our classmate. Now if our best friend is on the wrong side, we cannot stand with the other party, because it is against the moral code which we are taught by the society.

Now some people among us brings “do not humiliate you friend in front of others rather tell them their mistake in private.” Okay I get it, this is a quote that is not what half of the people around us perceive. What I get from this quote is that if your friend has a flaw, like if they have this weird habit of laughing at people’s insecurities, or making fun of them in public this is when you need to tell them in private that this behaviour of them isn’t the right thing to do. Many of us do some irritating things without even knowing that it could hurt anyone’s feelings or could make them uncomfortable. This is when you need to tell them in private that they are at mistake and should be corrected immediately.

But people, who always stood by their friends even when they were wrong and caused problem to those who were not in the position of power, later grow up to be those who take this to another step and from friends they slightly expand it to the word, “gender”.

Now, boys will side with boys when even they know that he is wrong, and why? Because the person in front of them is someone who doesn’t belong to their gender. Same goes for the girls, now I know many among you will have this “girl code” thing but trust me honey, the whole concept of girl code is nothing if it makes you choose the wrong person over the right one.

Why have we made it a war of genders? Why we are bound to stay on the side of our gender even when they are totally wrong. Why has the society made is so hard and unacceptable for people to choose the right side. Why? I don’t get it. I honestly don’t get that why cannot we just simply side with the truth regardless of the gender. Why do we always make it a gender war rather than the war of what’s right or wrong.

If a girl sides with a boy when on the other side happens to be another girl, she is blamed and criticised. Like there is this time you are giving your long speeches and statuses on Facebook about how everyone should be kind to others, that how you should have this courage to side with the right person or how everyone should have the liberty to speak, but the moment someone doesn’t go as you plan you start blaming them, shaming them and hurting them.

With all this sickness going around in our society, I have concluded that it is better to stay quiet rather than siding with the truth, and you know why? Because if I side with the truth, (which sometimes will be the person who is not of my gender), I will be shamed for the rest of my life. Girls and boys both will talk behind my back. I will be tagged as someone who is biased because maybe I have feelings for the person belonging to other gender. My every move will be noticed and nothing that I do or say will ever be ignored. And we all know that you can never ever knock sense into the brains of mobs, yes this is how they behave. A mere debate or a mere misunderstanding changes into a complete war zones having sex A on one side and Sex B on the other.

Your personal hatred for a specific gender has nothing to do with a situation where specie from that gender is standing. Your personal grudge for a specific person will only incite the situation if you do not side with the gender just because it belongs to “that” one person.

I have seen enough cases around and whenever I want to say something, I just shut up because I know how things like this ends, they ruin you and I have seen that personally.

Stand with the right, without being biased.

Thank You